There When He Needs You: How to Be an Available, Involved, and Emotionally Connected Father to Your Son

Men want to be better fathers, and today they're trying harder than ever. They jog behind strollers, leave work early for parent-teacher conferences, and roughhouse with their kids before they've had a chance to change out of their suits.

But many men aren't building the relationships with their sons that they'd hoped for. And sons are finding it hard to confide in fathers who must devote so much of their time to building careers that both keep them from their families and keep their families more >>

Men want to be better fathers, and today they're trying harder than ever. They jog behind strollers, leave work early for parent-teacher conferences, and roughhouse with their kids before they've had a chance to change out of their suits.

But many men aren't building the relationships with their sons that they'd hoped for. And sons are finding it hard to confide in fathers who must devote so much of their time to building careers that both keep them from their families and keep their families comfortable. Many fathers admit that they don't have a clue what's going on in their sons' lives, from ball game schedules to online communities to fears and anxieties about school, friends, and relationships. Fathers often walk around burdened with guilt, worried they're just not able to do the right thing, even though they're trying to be equal partners in parenting with their wives.

There When He Needs Youis the first book to tell the truth about the challenges that fathers of sons face today -- including the intergenerational legacies of self-doubt that they anxiously carry from themselves having had distant, unavailable fathers. A self-treatment program as well as a psychological X-ray of today's father,There When He Needs Youshows you how to create and strengthen a real, meaningful bond with your son. Through real-life stories of real-life dads who have lost and found their way, you as a father will learn to reorder your priorities, express yourself more openly, connect with your loved ones, and become the role model that your son needs.

Wives will learn how to gently help their husbands do this -- no nagging, threatening, or criticizing -- while becoming their husband's best friend, cheerleader, and coach. Turning the father-son dynamic inside out,There When He Needs Youhelps fathers, sons, and mothers to understand their roles in the family and create relationships that fuel closeness and trust.

There When He Needs Youwill open your eyes, tickle your funny bone, and touch your heart. Ultimately, you'll understand what it really means to be a father to your son and discover new ways to be there for him."There When He Needs Youpoignantly captures a man's struggle to become the father his son needs. Neil Bernstein's timely book is filled with real-life stories that entertain, inform, and inspire better parenting. It's a wonderfully written gift that I highly recommend to all families." -- Michael Gurian, author ofThe Wonder of Boys andThe Wonder of Girls"Our kids only get one father. So we dads better make sure that we get it right. The good news is that Neil Bernstein has written the book to show us the way. This gem is easy to read, down to earth, practical, and solid. What a gift to us guys who are trying to get it right for our kids' sake." -- David Walsh, Ph.D., author ofNo: Why Kids -- of All Ages -- Need to Hear It and Ways Parents Can Say It"There When He Needs Youis a superb, vibrant, and comprehensive guide for fathers at every stage of development. Both practical and inspirational, and with abundant, useful, and poignant case examples, it is a significant contribution to the parenting literature, and will be of inestimable value to fathers and their families. Dr. Bernstein is to be commended for authoring a book that will surely deepen and enrich the lives of the men who read it, as well as the lives of the children whom they raise." -- Brad E. Sachs, Ph.D., author ofWhen No One Understands: Letters to a Teenager on Life, Loss, and the Hard Road to AdulthoodandThe Good Enough Child: How to Have an Imperfect Family and Be Perfectly Satisfied"Finally, a father-friendly book on the topic of dads raising sons! Neil Bernstein is wise and passionate as he reminds fathers how much good we do when we seize the chance to connect with our sons." -- Neil Chethik, author ofFatherLoss: How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms with the Deaths of Th << less